When I work with clients, I often hear that they felt unwanted by their parents. Their parents didn't have the emotional scope to be a mother or father, most likely repeating generational and familial trauma. Patterns repeat even in nature, so it can be predictable that it would occur in families, often with devastating emotional effects.
Can we heal from this lack of emotional availability in our family tree? We can, although it will take years of repatterining and reprogramming. It takes a honest dive into what we need, so that we don't make the same mistakes. In other words, marrying a partner who cannot give us the emotional safety that we desire is a pattern, and a recipe for disappointment.
First, we must forgive our families for either not wanting us, or making us feel that way.
We must separate the lack of communication of safety and love that we needed as children into knowing that we can now provide this for ourselves, and thus for our own partner, children, friends, etc.
In other words, reaching into a healing space means you choose to know that you are wanted - YOU want YOU. The Divine wants you, or you would not currently reside upon this planet. Your star family, your sacred ancestors, all want you and love you.
When you begin to realize that the greatest thing you can do for yourself, and thus for the planet, is to forgive the past, realize you are not responsible for anything your parents could not give you, and move into your own light, you claim your health, your birthright, and your abundance.
This is not easy. It requires patience. It requires loving yourself as you would a tiny baby, telling yourself that you are wanted and you are loved. Even the Bible is full of relationships that were sticky and uncomfortable between families, between parents and children. You are in a group of humans who take up the greater portion of this planet in feeling unwanted.
And yet, you are. There's a special role for you. And the Universe planted you here for this time. You were born for this time. Trust that, and move into healing with joy and honoring of the process.